This isn't a one size fits all process, although a lot of people do ask the question is there a manual they read as the abuse seems to follow a pattern, your experience is unique to you.


Perhaps your life is consumed every waking moment wondering what they are doing, who they are with, how they are coping... 


It would be hard to imagine how one day you would wake up and your first thought was something else!

The first time this happened to me, I remember thinking to myself, 'wow' it was the afternoon when I realised it was the first time in the day I had thought about them. And then the day I started laughing and then felt guilty for having fun, Oh the joys of grief!


I have written and recorded this book and meditation to help you break little by little the invisible chains the tie you to the emotional abuser, I have been where you are now, well my version of it and I want to help you to get through this as quickly and divorce emotionally from the abuser. From this place you have no attachment to the outcome, you start to realise who they are is not who you thought they were, the thought that clash together totally contradicting each other start to calm and you can see the exit route and start to calm down your nervous system and think more clearly!



Downloadable Workbook

MP3 meditation


What you will need:

  • The Workbook or a notebook
  • A pen
  • Uninterrupted time/meditative space.
  • A place to sit comfortably.
  • A glass of water
  • Tissues
  • A pillow to thump (optional)


Work through each section and just listen to your body and write what comes up for you, you can do this as many times as you need to. You might remember a situation or a conversation and the workbook give your the opportunity to discover what it is and how if is affecting you.


The exercises are also helpful with balancing cognitive dissonance and stop your mind from fighting with itself.


You might find you have more to write about for the past than you do for the present or the future, and the next time this changes. You might decide you want to focus on just healing the emotions from the past first and move on at a later time to the future and the present, work intuitively and do what feels right for you.


Once you have written out your emotions listen to the MP3 for the meditation.

Grieving the Past Present & Future